“I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure. With that definition in mind, let’s think about love. Waking up every day and loving someone who may or may not love us back, whose safety we can’t ensure, who may stay in our lives or may leave without a moment’s notice, who may be loyal to the day they die or betray us tomorrow — that’s vulnerability.” Brene Brown
Part 2 of 5 in my Portraits for Coffee series was with Ava. You can see an explanation to my journey as to why this project started here
. I remember about 6 years ago, receiving an sms from a dear friend of mine living in Perth, which read, “One of my closest friends is moving from Perth to Sydney – can you please look out for her and make her feel welcome? She’s going to be greatly missed.” Welcoming this person into my life was never about me, but all about the way the universe works. I feel that this world has a way of resonating with you at times, and brings gifts in the form of people into you every day life. As I drove up to Palm Beach for our session, I kept running over in my head what imagery I wanted to incorporate into our few hours together and what I would say. It was as though a 3 dozen butterflies were bursting out of their chrysalis in my belly and awaiting to fly free. Sitting with her in a cafe just a stones through away from the ocean, we caught up properly for the first time in a couple of years. Our conversation started light, carefree and bubbly. And then it happened, “I’m learning how to be vulnerable” she said. All great conversations have their pivotal point, the moment when they morph from something to profound. My heart dropped and soared as the opportunity to explore a concept that I too had been investigating in recent months had become accessible to me. We delved into the ideas of how we shouldn’t be afraid to be more of who we are and to embrace a characteristic that we all need to nurture. There is no greater growth than that through self reflection and striving to be better human beings. And ultimately, when every single other thing is stripped away, the only thing that can ever be left, is truly love. Love for others. Love for ourselves. For if we approach everything with our bones brimming with love, our mind and our heart can experience a higher nature of being wholly connected to the world in which we live.
Thank you Ava, firstly moving back to Sydney from the US, and thank you for you light and patience on the day x